On last week’s first Controversial Conversation, we asked our followers: Should transgender people feel obligated to tell their partner that they were once the opposite sex, especially on the first date/encounter?
Although, we didn’t have an overwhelming outcry, the answers we did have were mostly: YES.
As someone who has friends in the LGBTQ community, I disagree wholeheartedly. This is due to the following reason: When you are transgender and you identify as the opposite sex from which you are born, you are that gender, in my opinion. For example, if you were a male and now are a female, you are a female. That’s who you are. It is up to you whether or not you choose to share your past because that’s just what it is…your past. There’s no use in identifying with something that you used to be and are not.
I believe that just like we can choose to not disclose our past high school year or college year experience, we can choose not to disclose our past genders. I know some of you may see this differently and as complex, and in some cases it can be. However, I think of it like this: If I fell in love with someone, and one day they woke up and all that was different was their sex, that wouldn’t change how I would feel about them.